Thursday, March 17, 2016

Why do relatives shun dementia relatives?

   I discovered something Important about why many relatives of dementia patients do not come to see them or even to send cards or money, they often let one caregiver do it all!

All comes from where my social work lady told me how she knew of several ladies, in a circle of friends, once she had symptoms of dementia her friends dropped her like a rock!

I have noted several cases where a caregiver of an alzeimers relative does it all.  While the others live far away, they do not call, do not help, do not visit very much.

Recently I talked with someone who caregivers and none of her relatives seem to do very much in the way of caregiving.
I told her that it is not that they are lazy and self centered, letting her do all the work of caregiving, it is that the dementia mother reminds them of THEIR vulnerability to dementia!  The genetics alone is scary!  Runs in families.  So they do not want to hear, know, anything about dementia and to stay away is best to not face their possible futures!      
But these people, are all high level professionals and naturalists and professors!  Should they not be more educated and understanding?!
NO!  They more intelligence one has, the more one stands to lose.....!!
Imagine a. College professor , now, in the nursing home, now a baby again, being dependent upon everyone for everything.  Imagine that he cannot now tell time, nor the date or even to know where he is!     To be reduced to a Nothing....
Since there is, often, in these cases, no spiritual life, there is nothing.

Tis a bit like a root canal dentist appointment scheduled for four months away.  Ah...safely four months away.  You do not even look at that calander month, on the schedule calander on your wall.   Only when that month appears do you see it.
Out of sight is out of mind, thus the relatives stay away and even to send a card or donate money REMINDS them!
So I can understand now why there are "uncaring" relatives!   One often has to deny, repress, just in order to be able to live!   Imagine being 45 years old, in a family where every lady gets early onset alzeimers at 50 years old!  A daughter,  being this age, if she always Knew, she might be so paralyzed with fear that she might have a nervous breakdown.   She she represses in order to be able to continue to function.
    Perhaps the only way to embrace such a future and to continue to live well, is to also accept death and to know that there is an afterlife.  To live a spiritual life, In Other words......

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Maybe attention deficient people should be left to fidget and to move!

I read the headlines in today's Democrat.  While I only could read the front page, that article about
ADD , ATTENTION DEFICIT SYNDROME , caught my eye.  Seems the FSU research people think that the hyper ness of the constant moving is actually required for a good memory!
     I can see this! Activating the brain IS the same as moving!  The two processes are linked together as One, in a ADD person.  
    Quiet the kid, have him sit still, and he just cannot think!   In order for him to think and recall memories properly, he should Move, and move a lot, even twitching and fidgeting.  
   Just look at such a moving boy, does this movement, itself, mimic the brain,s processing?!  Of course it does.   Take him off those drugs NOW!

Wednesday, January 06, 2016

transgender movement and reincarnation, some thoughts.

this article for me has some VERY profound implications that none of the pro..transgender people have thought of.

Right now our community is in the awkward, liminal space where we move from past to future, from disempowerment to autonomy. We have endured decades of conflict. We have risen to the challenge of persecution and respect the countless martyrs who sacrificed to ensure we were no longer marginalized. Our struggles are finally showing signs of victory.

the radical idea, far far more radical , for me, is how reincarnation itself is being voided!

once upon a time, back near the early part of the century,  here is what rudolf Steiner thought about reincarnation and disease.


If you have a disease, you are meant to have it — its is what you need in this incarnation. Steiner did not rule out treating diseases any more than he ruled out charity to the poor. But “helping” the ill or the poor needs to be done with full consciousness of the possible karmic harm that may be inflicted. If a person needs to experience a certain illness in this life, we probably should not thwart this cosmic, karmic need. Trying to balance benign neglect with compassion gets complicated, of course.

Little or nothing happens entirely by accident

and  here is more.


One consequence of Steiner’s medical doctrines is that Anthroposophical doctors generally avoid giving inoculations. Steiner taught that because a disease may result from karma, interfering with the illness may simply postpone the inevitable: the patient will be forced to compensate, by having the same or a similar illness, in a future life. Addressing a group of doctors, Steiner said “If we destroy the susceptibility to smallpox, we are concentrating only on the external side of karmic activity.” [3] If karma is not fulfilled in one life, it must be fulfilled in another. Moreover, Steiner warned, there are conspiracies afoot that seek to trick people into taking medicines that destroy the soul. Black magicians and other evildoers work to create medicines that deaden people to all things spiritual: “Endeavors to achieve this will be made by bringing out remedies to be administered by inoculation...only these inoculations will influence the human body in a way that will make it refuse to give a home to the spiritual inclinations of the soul

In Anthroposophical belief, children need to undergo certain diseases. The illnesses that are generally associated with childhood play a special role in a young person's development, Anthroposophists believe. Children endure particular diseases as they attempt, unconsciously, to overcome the deleterious genetic characteristics they have received from their parents. Children need to gain mastery over these traces of inheritance so that their unique spiritual egos (their "I's") can gain proper expression. Thus, boys and girls should be allowed to undergo childhood illnesses — and vaccination should generally be rejected, since it can hamper this process.

the old idea of reincarnation seems to have a lot of ideas that infer that one should just accept one,s condition as karma and if you meddled with it, you would have to then redo the same lesson in another lifetime.

one of the touchy points, here, is where I have read, over and over, how if one incarnates "too much" as one sex, one has to reincarnate as the other sex, finally.  however just like a  bouncing basketball keeps bouncing,  if say a man of 20 lives in a row incarnates as a woman, he is still a man in soul!  thus lesbos!   the same with homo men.  the old ideas of reincarnation infer one should just accept the Role given and to learn to be a man.

ALSO, and this is very important, that behind reincarnation is an entire government system, in the afterlife, that helps one incarnate and yes, to ENFORCE the rules too!!
a whole system surely governed from a very high level in heaven.

what I am seeing here is a kind  of collective uncounscious that is rebelling against this and Taking Charge of their own destiny, subverting even the Angels and Guides, dictates for that incarnation!    more and more people taking charge, and not only in sexual preferences!

reincarnation as has been known, is probably going onto the scrap heap!
many many life plans are now being tossed into the garbage bin.   each of us now can create our own destiny, more, both here on earth and in the afterlife worlds!


Monday, November 02, 2015

nail polish kit

nail polish kit. here at my senior home a lady does nails.   just look at all of the colors.

Monday, October 26, 2015


a fall display here at the westminster oaks senior home, here in Tallahassee.

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

the red flower

the red flower, hibiscus, I think.   taken at Tallahassee Florida.  

Tuesday, September 29, 2015